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My name is Risha and welcome to my blog.

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I have always wanted to be a young bride. When I was younger I knew that I was going to get married at a young age, but I didn't know how young and I didn't know what to expect. My family told me that I should just worry about my education and not about being married. My family didn't understand that being a wife was something that burned deep inside ouf me. It was a desire of mine and that my life wouldn't be whole without. So, listening to them, I tried to just date around for a while, but that only got me a bunch of heartache and wasted time.

So I decide to get married right out of high school. The thing was, nobody knew. Boy was that the wrong thing to do. It seemed like my entire family had turned on me. Not only that but the relationship never felt right. We were married but I always felt like I loved him more than he loved me. After about 6 months of marriage we were separated and in the middle of a divorce. My heart was in more pain than ever before. I felt so betrayed. I went against everything my family said to be with that guy and all he cared about in the end was himself. Life was like walking through hell after that. I couldn't eat, sleep, or think about anything else. I picked up a second job just to fill the time and void in my life that was there after he left. But life had to move on.

After about 6 months I decided to start dating again. At this point, the average person would say to themselves, "I just got out of a bad relationship, or marriage (if that's what you want to call it), and I should probably need to take a break for a year or two and slow down." No not me. As I mentioned before, I have ALWAYS wanted to be a wife so thats what I pursued. I started doing good for myself. At the age of 19 I started my own real estate business, i had bought myself a car (because the creep took the other one with him), and I was going to school earing my bachelor's in psychology. After dating all the wrong ones I ended up dating this guy who was 16 years older than me, and we hit it off from the day we met.

I had alwasy had a crush on him but he just seemed really shy. At the time he was 35 and I was 19. To my family that was a big no no. They would say things like, "he's just going to try and control you and manipulate you". I didn't care. My heart was saying something different. I loved being around him. He made me feel like a queen when I was around him and this was way before he even had a thought that I enlove with him. To make a long story short we took a trip together to the taste of chicago and from there is where our lives began together. Now we are happily married with a son.

If you didn't get anything from my story, this is what i want you to take away:

1. Never be afraid to follow your heart even if your family thinks differently. In the end your are the one that has to deal with the results.

2. Take head to good advice. Sometimes people have very helpful things to say. Take what you can use a discard the rest.

3. If you feel like you're doing all the work, forget it. It'll never change. Once you're married it'll just get worse and in the end you'll be the one who is hurt.

4. If you feel like you can handle the responsibility of being married, go ahead. Do remember that this is a repsonsibility, love can't carry you through everything. There will be days when you will not want to do things that have to be done or days when you just think you can't stand another day with that person. If you break with someone over not calling back or something as small as that marriage is not for you. What happens when you are 3 months into marrige and you find out that your one and only true love ran up $6,000 on a credit card that you two have to pay back together.

5. Stay true to yourself. Don't force it, let things flow and listen to your inner voice it will never steer you wrong.

6. Remember marriage is a sacrafice. Your're sacraficing having a single live to have a life together. So that's he way things needed to be done, together. You are no longer a "man show". There will be things that you want to do, that you could do, but you shouldn't do because you are no longer single.